Tuesday, January 22, 2008

What is a good friend?

Is it someone who always gives you a ride to work, goes to the night club with you every weekend, calls you all the time or knows exactly what you want for your birthday? For some people they would say yes to all of these options and others might say no to all of them. All of my life I've tried to figure out what makes a good friend and I tried to be that. In a lot of respects I think that I've failed in being a good friend and in other ways I think that I have been a good friend because I really tried to be there for them because that's what I would want in a friend. People's interests and personalities change through out there lives as they become more comfortable and confident with who they are as a person. Someone who fit into there lives before one transitional point might not fit into there lives anymore they've fulfilled there purpose , so to speak. Friends come and go in our lives, so to say someone is a good friend really depends on how long you have known them and what you've been through together. Although even if you have known them for a long time people can disappoint you and make you wonder why your friends at all.

Expectations
I guess I do have expectations in friends, and people in general. Things that seem to be common courtesy to me don't seem that way to others. My mom recently told me not to expect anything from anyone cause you will always be disappointed. It's sad, but true. People are generally out for their own best interest. School, work and various other activities generally keep people occupied and thus leave little time for the ups and downs of other people's lives, even there own friends. It might sound negative, but I've been through a few experiences to know that you really need to protect yourself.

Good News
The good news is not expecting anything from people makes for a few enjoyable surprises in the end. It also makes life a little less stressful when your not hoping and expecting something to happen. Most of the time if you want something then your just going to have to ask for it.

In the End...
The people who may need a little help in the being a good friend department also might have a little growing up to do. For now I'll try my best not to expect to much from folks and try to live as stress-free as possible. Cause really people... aren't friends supposed bring happiness into our lives instead of more UN-needed stress?